How to get unstuck
First of all I need to tell you why you are stuck in the first place. If you are stuck I believe it is safe to assume you have ruminating thoughts of “I’m not sure what to do.” You may be going over a certain situation that you are trying to either figure out or remedy over and over and over. Sound familiar? Then keep reading.
I have been there and let me tell you, those years were hell. So many thoughts DAILY about the issue at hand. “What do i do about this?” “What if i choose something and it turns out to be a big mistake?” “What if I make this choice and completely screw up my life?!” “What if I decide this and then I can’t go back to how it was before I made my decision!” “What if this is already the best that it gets for me?” One word can sum it up-STRESS. It is stressful and confusing to be in this state.
Think of the energy that you have in a day to be about the size of a watermelon. (stay with me 😂) Every day you only have so much of this energy to go about your day, do your daily tasks, make decisions, expend physical energy etc. Now, when we spend, for example, half of that watermelon on a ruminating thought we then limit our energy. We are left with HALF of the potential WHOLE. Now, if you are anything like me I wasn’t spending half, it was SIGNIFICANTLY more than that. I would estimate I had about 30% of my energy each day to cook, clean, work, care for kids, exercise etc. The rest, the other 70%, was spent on trying to figure out what the heck I was going to do!
Have you ever had a day where physically you did almost nothing? Come the end of the day you are completely exhausted despite having done nothing physically. This is because our THOUGHTS ARE ENERGY. What we spend it on MATTERS. When you are left feeing stuck and depleted it is because you have WASTED this energy THINKING THINGS that are clearly NOT HELPING you.
So what can you do?
I am going to tell you what I did first. I will tell you also how I would deal with this subconsciously because that is how I would help my clients.
First of all, you aren’t going to figure it out sooner than you are meant to figure it out. So don’t worry, this hasn’t been wasted time, its been learning time. Sometimes we have to learn what NOT DO TO, in order to learn what TO DO in the future. You are not behind, its ok to be where you are at in this moment. Reading a blog and trying to figure it all out. Good job, your on it!
Now for me, it was when I stepped away that I knew what to do. I mean I literally stepped away. Over about a years time, I left my house to go and make content for my YouTube channel a couple of times. I would go for a couple of weeks or a week and a bit here and there. Long enough to get into FLOW and get a crap pile of work done for my channel in a short amount of time. Each time I would go there was a bit of a process, meditate, do yoga, dance, be alone, zero cell phone use ( I know right?…we had no WIFI and WOW was that ever a game changer when you are trying to figure things out), connect with the Divine, write, read and work.
Every time I would leave, I felt AMAZING. I ad completely reset myself. Among other things I have an extraordinary enlightening experience. (I’ll save that for another blog) Time after time I would leave home, do this, come back and feel amazing. The problem was I would go back home and sometimes within minutes the high I had been on was gone. Sometimes it didn’t even last past the edge of town.
If you know me at all, then you may know that I believed everything comes from inside of us. So, I would try to figure out what it was inside me that was causing this stuckness. It was very fucky and unenjoyable and seemed like the fuckiness wasn’t ever going to leave me. It did.
I left again, but this time on a different trip. It was within moments of leaving that I felt a surge in energy come to me. I felt uplifted. It was a series of events over the following days that lead me to realize I needed to leave where I was. YES indeed MOST THINGS come from within us but sometimes they also come from outside factors. This was the common link. Every time I left energy went up, every time I returned energy came back down. I had my answer. It was time to leave. I didn’t know all the details but I knew the Divine would take care of me, because I had been told this.
I spent over a year constantly bugging my friends, “This happened, what do I do? I don’t know what to do!!” back and forth and back and forth I went over and over and over. They told me “ You’ll just figure it out, only you know, you’ll know when you know.” They were absolutely right.
So to sum that up what exactly did I do? I stepped away. I literally stepped away from the situation at every opportunity I got and eventually that answer I needed just came. When I was away from the issue, I wouldn’t think about it, I wouldn’t give it my time, I just forgot about it for a while. This is when the insights came. WHY? It came because I was then working with ALL OF MY ENERGY. I wasn’t giving it away to over thinking, I was keeping it for myself to do things I enjoyed. Have you ever forgot someone’s name? Then when they leave and you aren’t thinking of it anymore their name just pops into your head? Its similar to this.
ADVICE #1 - Step away , do something else and STOP THINKING ABOUT IT. Trust me on this, what you have done so far hasn’t worked. Its inevitable that it also won’t work tomorrow or the next day or the next day, as long as you continue to do what you’ve always done. So , honestly what do you have to lose? Give this a shot.
Subconsciously what can you do?
The subconscious mind works in pictures and images, also with feelings. So making this as general as possible what you could do for yourself is first off relieve yourself from the pressure. When we hold pressure, not only does it make us feel stressed and awful, it doesn’t actually help us choose anything. It just makes us feel like we need to choose something immediately, we don't, it’s ok, you’ve got time.
A Pressure Relieving meditation : FYI I have a PILE of YouTube videos you could use for this. A really good one for this is the 5 minutes before bed meditation. https://youtu.be/F1ZrbeQ1wHE
Close your eyes and just breath a couple of times. Feel your breath. Then imagine that pressure in your body. Give that pressure a size, a shape, a color, a smell , a taste and even a sound. Once you have done this imagine shoving that “thing” into a jar. Put on the lid. Then throw it so far away that it is out of site. Sit in the calm space that you are left with for as long as is comfortable.
What happens when you do this, is you are sending a subconscious signal to your mind to actually let go of the pressure. You may need to do this daily for a while but as you do you will notice a change. Now, not only are we putting on pressure but also Stress, Worry, maybe even anxiety and depression, fear of failure etc. There are so many facets that can be attached to this. If you check out the mental cleanse series I created on YouTube you can work through each individual emotion. https://youtu.be/bVt6qGRzRUU The mental cleanse series is subconscious healing, best part, its all free!
Another thing you can do - Imagine putting that ruminating thought on a shelf, anytime it comes up. Take the actual thought, imagine you are putting it in a box and placing it on a shelf. Turn away from it and think about something that makes you happy. Puppies for example. If puppies don’t make you happy, then I don’t know what will….😂 Also, we would not make good friends. No puppy haters allowed. For realzzzzz though.
If you were my client what would I do with you?
First of all, I would love you because you are my client lol, seriously, I would…😆 😍! Secondly I would regress you, like I do with 98% of my clients. I would take that stuck feeling you are experiencing and would follow it back to when it began. Now this wouldn’t necessarily be when you are thinking of. Sometimes these feelings start years or even life times before we experience them again. By doing this and healing the stuck feeling, it frees up your energy, this is how clarity comes.
There would be many facets to the feeling of being stuck, so many feelings around it. We would work through them all. By doing this not only will clarity come but you will just FEEL BETTER. When we feel better things become clear, our value goes up, our worth and confidence go up , our self trust, self care and self love go up. When these things are at optimal levels we are able to take action and GET UNSTUCK!
Thanks for taking the time to CARE enough about YOURSELF to want to grow past this stuckness. You will make it out, no one stays stuck forever, they just don’t. I also want to let you know that you are VALUABLE. If you TRULY believed this TRUTH what would you do in your current stuck situation?
Til next time 😉
